One of Laura’s classes on the weekend really got me thinking.  

I have always struggled personally with the idea of having sex with submissives.  It seemed to be giving up some of my power – that simply by having physical sex either oral or being penetrated made me less of a Domme. That I was giving up control by receiving pleasure.

And it’s always been a quandary for me.

In the class Laura spent some time talking about the Femme Dommes that worked for Kink.com, and how the ratings really bottomed out if any scenes showed them having sex with the submissive.  

She was sitting with them in The Armory, discussing the issue, and then in a style that only she can have, proceeded to passionately rant about their absolute right to have sex as Dommes – as and when they see fit.

Doms are at liberty, and actually expected, to demonstrate their control and dominance using sex.  But when a Femme Domme does the same, that’s seen as weak. 

Apparently she got a massive round of applause from those ladies.  They are some of the most stunning Femme Dommes in the video business, and yet viewers judged them really harshly for wanting to be laid on film.

But something she said really stuck with me, and has caused me to rethink.

Her way of saying it was this: Have you earnt the right to f@#k me?

Many submissives work hard to please.  Some work very very hard.  And having sex with them, male or female, can be a massive reward. 

And if I shift my head to them having earnt it, that it was me directing the traffic, my demands and desires that were being fulfilled, then it wasn’t about giving control over to them at all

Instead, it’s an extension of my dominance and control, even when in the heat of lust.

More than a few people in the crowd were surprised to hear me talk about it openly (if not with some hesitation).  And as a group, including Laura, we talked through it.  It has definitely given me food for thought.  And I believe it will fundamentally change the way I play.

And that was in a “beginner” class.  Good help me with the rest of the more advanced topics.  There is a lot for me to learn and even more to think about.

She has an uncanny knack of being able to steer through the scene bullshit and give you a way of seeing the world that is both sexy and empowering.  That course really spoke to me: Don't let someone else's definition of who you should be deny your exploration and all the fun that goes with it.

Scary as it might be to challenge the way I think, I am looking forward to the different workshops coming up.  Definitely view changing.  

What an amazing afternoon!

Last Sunday’s bonanza was a total surprise for me.  Each time we run them, we see glowing faces of people who are either just starting to find their way into our wonderful world of kink, or those ready to take the next steps.

But this one was totally different.  Yes, there were the glowing faces of people learning new skills, but they weren’t just glowing, they were BEAMING.  Hi-beam, full headlights, smiles coming past their ears.

And there were sooooooo many of them.  It felt as if every budding kinkster in Sydney had found their way to our door. 

And we loved it.  The presenters were on a high – so many people hungry for the skills they had to share – and our staff went beyond their normal uber selves making veterans and newbies alike feel looked after and cared for.

And the minute the workshops finished, and the stay-N-play commenced, there were people out there practicing their newfound skills

The vibe was amazing.  Positive, engaged, inspiring and hot!  To everyone who was there – our trusted uberLearn crewe, our presenters, and our patrons.  Thank you for making last Sunday one of the best Bonanzas ever.

Saturday night was something very special at uber - we were privileged to stage the world premier of a truly revolutionary show - Danse Neurale.

As you know, we don't "do" shows. That's not what we are about. But we could not let this magical opportunity pass us by.

It was something that Lukas and satomi had been working on for a very long time, and saturday night saw it take its first public breath. And we know it is the start of something significant.

It was a body art performance Lukas developed in collaboration with computer programmers. People have constantly asked Lukas how he feels when he is in a suspension. This inspired him to create a visual and audible manifestation of his vital physiological processes as his body responds to his actual performance in real-time.

By controlling his heart rate, breathing and alpha-wave brain patters he is able to trigger and modify fractal algorithms which produce a complete audio-visual output.

Lukas' involuntary autonomous body responses to stress provide the basic material for the experience which you see projected, but the transformation of these images and sounds into something "other" is a result of his consciously influencing those vital responses through focusing in a meditative state and willfully changing them. It is his brain, controlling his body, controlling the machine.

It was incredible. The reaction from the audience was tangible. Not just because they knew they were the part of creating something new, but the actual reactions Lukas projects literally took some people's breath away.

To make this happen, Mr P and others worked their proverbial butts off - rigging, testing, configuring - for a few relentless days. It was hard hard work. And for that I am deeply and profoundly moved. Across the board, people have little indication of the amount of effort it takes. And Mr P drove it, made certain it happened. I cannot express how much it meant to me, Lukas and satomi. Thank You!

For everyone who was there to bear witness, it was an amazing experience. And it has made me very very proud.

If you were there, we hoped you enjoyed.

jeans down for genes day

Friday 3rd August

 
We believe it's an incredible cause. Many do.  All around Australia, vanillas will be putting their jeans on for this worthy charity.  And while I will be wearing mine to work, showing my support to the greater world, I will be wearing an inner smile, know that later that evening, I will be doing something very different with those jeans for the same charity.

Last year a small group of motivated Sydney kinksters created an event to support the cause.  It was a small function, but full of interesting characters.  People that Mr P & I had not meet before - the kink scene is so wonderfully diverse. 

We donated some prizes for the Charity auction, loaned them some equipment, and decided to go along to show our support.  We didn't expect to have such a great time!

We had a blast.  Lots of fun people doing what they love to do the most.  And the giggles that went with it were huge.  We were a little worse for wear the next day (self inflicted, no sympathy required  LOL) but were blown away with what a good experience it was,

We kept in touch with the organisers, and this year we have decided to be the major sponsor.  We are transforming the main uber space into a spanking hall, just primed for all the crazy fundraising activities that are planned. To see the Official Jeans for Genes Day invite, click here

Like the Charity auction of kinky goods, donated by some of Sydney's best fet stores & local crafty kinksters.  And the charity spanking competitions. And you can blame me personally for the DIY Create-a-Paddle competition.  You get to spend a max of $10 on materials, be as creative as you like, and bring your paddle along to be judged.  Just hink of how much fun $10 and a bit of imagination can create!.

To get your ticket, you need to register a $10 donation with the Jeans for Genes Day organisation. 

WE have limited the tickets to 50 people, so everyong can enjoy the evening in its spanking format.

So you will need to book in advance.  At $10 it's that simple..then get your paddles out.

friday august 3
9pm 'til late  |   $10 donation

You are cordially invited to

 Jeans Down for Genes Day

 Friday August 3 2012

 9pm till late

  The wonderful team from Uber Services are the major sponsors of this year's event and are hosting us at

 Uber

 (address given on ticket purchase confirmation)

Tickets $10 per person

BYO drinks in moderation in your own esky

Dress Code – Jeans (of course) and fetish, fancy or basic black on top

Bookings via Jeans for Genes Donation page link prior to the event

http://fundraise.jeansforgenes.org.au/kristina_lucas_3

Numbers will be limited on the night to 50 attendees

Jeans for Genes Day is the major fundraising event for the Children's Medical Research Institute. Help us raise money for a very worthy cause at the ever so twisted Jeans Down for Genes Day spank evening. The wonderful Ms Dee and Mr P are turning the main area of Uber into a spanking lounge for the evening so we can spank away to our hearts content for a good cause. Bring your sense of adventure and most important wear your jeans!

Uber Management are more than happy for fetish wear to be worn for the event but wish to remind all attendees that Uber is located in a residential area and prefers not to alarm or offend the neighbours or draw undue attention to the venue. So please make sure not to make excessive noise when entering or leaving. Attendees might also like to consider a jacket or coat if their costume is fairly under dressed on top.

Jeans Down for Genes Day is a fun, light-hearted evening so laughing and having a good time is the order of the evening. There is no pressure on anyone attending to participate in any activities but we would love it if you felt like joining in the fun in some way. The Charity Auction and Charity Spankings - including sub on dom - were the highlight of last year's event and are on the menu again. First time "virgin spankings" were also a hit - excuse the pun. Please feel free to not only watch but actively encourage participants during the charity spankings. Prizes will also be on offer for best DIY paddle under $10 and other fun events on the night.

 

Uberplay for May was certainly an interesting one.  On the back of our “Make an Effort” communications – setting out our expectations for behaviour and dress – the crowd was smaller than normal.  But WOW.

Everyone made an effort – not just in dress but the place went wild with play.  While our parties always have lots of play, people were feeling a little gamer, and more than a few people decided that that was the night for them to start playing in front of an audience.

There were many of the classic play devotees doing their thing, but there were a distinct number of people who ventured from being voyeurs to becoming public players. 

People doing their first needle scene (they had astutely organised for one of our staff to spot them) through to people picking up floggers and paddles and indulging in impact play.

And some more experienced players stepped out of their comfort zone and dabbled with different areas all together.

All very hot to watch!

As always our crewe were awesome (yes I am flattering them, but it’s still very true). They really made the night go smoothly for all.

Outstanding night.  Bravo!